Why Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms

Why Many Women Don't Have Orgasms Did you know that only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during sexual intercourse? According to an analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her book The Case of the Female Orgasm, 50% of women have orgasms sometimes, 20% seldom do and 5% never have orgasms. Can you imagine? As I travelled around the world attending workshops in tantra and conscious sexuality, there were always a number of women who couldn't feel pleasure because their clitoris and vagina were completely numb and there was at least one woman [...]

By | November 19th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on Why Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms

Wanting Divine Union Doesn’t Make You Needy

Wanting Divine Union Doesn't Make You Needy You love your partner. You want to connect with them deeply. But maybe they are busy - they work a lot. Or you are in an open relationship and they have other partners (There are many happy open relationships. But where jealousy is a big problem, we need to look deeper). Or they are simply distracted from your relationship by a thousand other things. Does this make you "needy" or "jealous"? No. It makes you fully human. Because humans are designed to connect deeply. Merging is not Co-dependence. Co-dependence is [...]

By | November 12th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on Wanting Divine Union Doesn’t Make You Needy

The Inner Strength to Be Vulnerable in Relationships

The Inner Strength to be Vulnerable in Relationship Tantric Intimacy holds the potential to connect us completely. We drop our guards and allow our whole self to flow into another person as we totally receive them as well. This creates a seemingly magical circuit of loving energy that can take us to infinite, wondrous places. This is very simple to say and completely natural for us to do. Yet, we struggle. How can we be safe to do this? How can I be open when I don't know if I can trust this other person completely? What if I [...]

By | October 10th, 2017|Intimacy, Philosophy|Comments Off on The Inner Strength to Be Vulnerable in Relationships

If You’re Dying to Sleep with Them, RUN!!

If You're Dying to Sleep With Them, RUN!! What do we look for first in a romantic partner? Sexual chemistry? Attraction? But what if these are the wrong things if we are actually seeking romantic love and tantric intimacy? My teacher once said, "If you meet someone and you immediately are dying to jump into bed with them, then RUN THE OTHER DIRECTION!" What? This seems so counter-intuitive. And yet if we listen to our stories of meeting people, having great chemistry and then getting sexy, what is the rest of the story most of the time? "And then it [...]

By | February 16th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on If You’re Dying to Sleep with Them, RUN!!

Celibacy on the Tantric Path

Celibacy on the Tantric Path Have you ever considered taking a time of celibacy? It's a fascinating question because it seems counter to everything that we desire when we start studying tantra. Many of us start studying tantra because we hear about the incredible sex and hour-long orgasms. Why would we ever want to be celibate? Because the magic of tantra is about breaking free of limitations and old patterns. It's about personally challenging our beliefs, fears, and desires. It's about changing, expanding and truly taking ourselves to a new level. And celibacy is a fascinating "worm-hole" to get us [...]

By | October 12th, 2016|Tantric Transformation|Comments Off on Celibacy on the Tantric Path

Tantra: The Next Step in Love’s Evolution

Tantra: The Next Step in Love's Evolution We are on the cusp of a whole new chapter in love, relationships and sexuality. The old ways are dying.. and more quickly every day. We no longer define relationships like our parents and grandparents did. We are redefining love in every way. And we know that we are missing something in our sex lives - that it's more than just going for a simple orgasm, that we're supposed to feel differently afterwards, that it's supposed to bring us closer together, and that it's supposed to be a kind of spiritual experience [...]

By | June 22nd, 2016|Frontpage Article, Philosophy, Sexuality, Students|Comments Off on Tantra: The Next Step in Love’s Evolution

The Question of Loneliness

The Question of Loneliness What does tantra have to say about loneliness? A participant in a recent workshop asked this question. We were talking about what needed healing in the world and how could tantra help. Hmm.. tough question. Rumi describes the official tantric philosophy in his quote: "Do not feel lonely... The entire universe is within you." Sigh... Yes, we understand that. But when we are sitting alone, experiencing the pain of loneliness, this idea/saying/teaching is of little comfort. So how do we get there? How do we go from where we are now to that wonderful experience that [...]

By | June 10th, 2016|Uncategorized|Comments Off on The Question of Loneliness

5 Things to Look for in a Tantric Lover

5 Things to Look for in a Tantric Lover "How do I introduce tantra to a new partner/lover?" This is one of the most common questions I am asked by individuals studying tantra.. Well, it isn't really as much about introducing it to them as much as it's about noticing if they have the potential and the calling. Because in reality, not everyone does. We all have the potential deep down. Tantra is simply about being intimate, present, and ecstatic in the way that we all were made. But not everyone is looking for it at this point in their [...]

By | February 14th, 2016|Intimacy|Comments Off on 5 Things to Look for in a Tantric Lover

Tantra is Brilliant Scientific Discovery

Tantra is Actually a Scholarly, Scientific Pursuit Tantra is often relegated to the world of right-brained hippies and yogis. People have often said to me, "Oh I know someone who would be right in to THAT kind of thing." There's a belief that you have to be a little flaky, artistic and lacking a real scientific mind to be "INTO" something like tantra... But the truth is that tantra is worthy of the greatest scientific study. There was a time when the great thinkers, philosophers and scientists explored the unknown worlds. Science was about doing experiments based on inspired [...]

By | January 14th, 2016|Philosophy|Comments Off on Tantra is Brilliant Scientific Discovery

Tantric Intimacy: The Healing Path

Tantric Intimacy: The Healing Path Many people begin the journey into tantra because they hear that they can have AMAZING SEX!! (And who doesn't want that?) Others feel the mystical call of the ancient spiritual path of tantra.. the desire to experience the divine in every moment of their lives. The desire to truly awaken to their full divine/human potential. And many feel broken in some way... so many painful past relationships, feeling disconnected from themselves, lost meaning in life, difficulties sexually.. and we hear that the path of tantra can help us. The truth is that in order to [...]

By | September 24th, 2015|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Tantric Intimacy: The Healing Path