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Finding Love May Require an Upgrade

Finding Love May Require an UpgradePeople are always asking me how they can find someone to love. They ask if I think there is anyone out there who is "normal", not crazy and who actually wants to get to know someone?The challenge is real.Some people are out there looking to meet people through dating apps or friends. Others live passively through the same dating apps and sites, chatting with potential partners but never intending on meeting them. Many have lost hope that there is anyone out there for them.But it isn't true. There are millions of single people out there. [...]

By | November 29th, 2017|Dating, Intimacy|Comments Off on Finding Love May Require an Upgrade

Why Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms

Why Many Women Don't Have Orgasms Did you know that only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during sexual intercourse? According to an analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her book The Case of the Female Orgasm, 50% of women have orgasms sometimes, 20% seldom do and 5% never have orgasms. Can you imagine? As I travelled around the world attending workshops in tantra and conscious sexuality, there were always a number of women who couldn't feel pleasure because their clitoris and vagina were completely numb and there was at least one woman [...]

By | November 19th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on Why Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms

Wanting Divine Union Doesn’t Make You Needy

Wanting Divine Union Doesn't Make You Needy You love your partner. You want to connect with them deeply. But maybe they are busy - they work a lot. Or you are in an open relationship and they have other partners (There are many happy open relationships. But where jealousy is a big problem, we need to look deeper). Or they are simply distracted from your relationship by a thousand other things. Does this make you "needy" or "jealous"? No. It makes you fully human. Because humans are designed to connect deeply. Merging is not Co-dependence. Co-dependence is [...]

By | November 12th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on Wanting Divine Union Doesn’t Make You Needy

The Inner Strength to Be Vulnerable in Relationships

The Inner Strength to be Vulnerable in Relationship Tantric Intimacy holds the potential to connect us completely. We drop our guards and allow our whole self to flow into another person as we totally receive them as well. This creates a seemingly magical circuit of loving energy that can take us to infinite, wondrous places. This is very simple to say and completely natural for us to do. Yet, we struggle. How can we be safe to do this? How can I be open when I don't know if I can trust this other person completely? What if I [...]

By | October 10th, 2017|Intimacy, Philosophy|Comments Off on The Inner Strength to Be Vulnerable in Relationships

If You’re Dying to Sleep with Them, RUN!!

If You're Dying to Sleep With Them, RUN!! What do we look for first in a romantic partner? Sexual chemistry? Attraction? But what if these are the wrong things if we are actually seeking romantic love and tantric intimacy? My teacher once said, "If you meet someone and you immediately are dying to jump into bed with them, then RUN THE OTHER DIRECTION!" What? This seems so counter-intuitive. And yet if we listen to our stories of meeting people, having great chemistry and then getting sexy, what is the rest of the story most of the time? "And then it [...]

By | February 16th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on If You’re Dying to Sleep with Them, RUN!!

5 Things to Look for in a Tantric Lover

5 Things to Look for in a Tantric Lover "How do I introduce tantra to a new partner/lover?" This is one of the most common questions I am asked by individuals studying tantra.. Well, it isn't really as much about introducing it to them as much as it's about noticing if they have the potential and the calling. Because in reality, not everyone does. We all have the potential deep down. Tantra is simply about being intimate, present, and ecstatic in the way that we all were made. But not everyone is looking for it at this point in [...]

By | February 14th, 2016|Intimacy|Comments Off on 5 Things to Look for in a Tantric Lover

How To Increase Your Loving Potential

How To Increase Your Loving Potential Do you think that you love to your full potential? What does that even mean? What would it feel like to love at our full potential?  To pull out all the stops... To feel completely nourished and held... To give ourselves completely and openly without abandon... To feel a connection with others that makes our soul sing and life makes complete sense... What Stands in Our Way? 1) We are Afraid:  We are afraid that they won't love us back. And if they don't love us as much as we love [...]

By | May 14th, 2015|Intimacy, Uncategorized|Comments Off on How To Increase Your Loving Potential

Adding Meditation to Sex

Adding Meditation to Sex How does meditation change a "getting lucky" into a spiritual, transformative, multi-dimensional experience? The journey from our "monkey minds" and chaotic lives to blissful meditative mindfulness is very similar to our journey from "just normal procreative/recreational sex" to phenomenal spiritual intimacy...  And the journey is there for all of us ... starting with... A Safe Container to Explore Within: The first thing we must do is decide to be completely kind, loving, compassionate and non-judgemental with ourselves and our partner. Within meditation, we come face to face with many things that we don't want to admit to [...]

By | March 17th, 2015|Intimacy|1 Comment

Seeing the God and Goddess in Your Partner

Seeing the God and Goddess in Your Partner Do you look for the God or Goddess in your lover? Oftentimes, we just see the covering.. the face, the body, the hair, the mood... And often this is also all that we share.. It's all that we want our partner to see as well. But when we look into the eyes of our lover and see deeper, we discover something phenomenal. We see something divine.. something timeless.. something peaceful and loving and wonderful. People used to ask Mother Theresa how she did what she did with the crippled and dying [...]

By | March 4th, 2015|Intimacy|Comments Off on Seeing the God and Goddess in Your Partner

Tantra is the Opposite of Porn

Tantra is the Opposite of Porn What if studying tantra could heal our addiction to Porn? What if tapping into our natural abilities to experience ecstasy changes everything? I was really nervous when I first realized that I wanted to teach Tantra. What would people think? Would they be offended? Talking about sex is such a no-no… I live in a very small conservative community.. How was this going to work? But then a good friend said to me… "Do you realize what you're offering people? Tantra is essentially the OPPOSITE of porn." Once I realized this, I never [...]

By | February 12th, 2015|Intimacy, Sexuality, Students|Comments Off on Tantra is the Opposite of Porn