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Why Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms

Why Many Women Don't Have Orgasms Did you know that only 25% of women are consistently orgasmic during sexual intercourse? According to an analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her book The Case of the Female Orgasm, 50% of women have orgasms sometimes, 20% seldom do and 5% never have orgasms. Can you imagine? As I travelled around the world attending workshops in tantra and conscious sexuality, there were always a number of women who couldn't feel pleasure because their clitoris and vagina were completely numb and there was at least one woman [...]

By | November 19th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on Why Many Women Don’t Have Orgasms

Wanting Divine Union Doesn’t Make You Needy

Wanting Divine Union Doesn't Make You Needy You love your partner. You want to connect with them deeply. But maybe they are busy - they work a lot. Or you are in an open relationship and they have other partners (There are many happy open relationships. But where jealousy is a big problem, we need to look deeper). Or they are simply distracted from your relationship by a thousand other things. Does this make you "needy" or "jealous"? No. It makes you fully human. Because humans are designed to connect deeply. Merging is not Co-dependence. Co-dependence is [...]

By | November 12th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on Wanting Divine Union Doesn’t Make You Needy

If You’re Dying to Sleep with Them, RUN!!

If You're Dying to Sleep With Them, RUN!! What do we look for first in a romantic partner? Sexual chemistry? Attraction? But what if these are the wrong things if we are actually seeking romantic love and tantric intimacy? My teacher once said, "If you meet someone and you immediately are dying to jump into bed with them, then RUN THE OTHER DIRECTION!" What? This seems so counter-intuitive. And yet if we listen to our stories of meeting people, having great chemistry and then getting sexy, what is the rest of the story most of the time? "And then it [...]

By | February 16th, 2017|Intimacy, Sexuality|Comments Off on If You’re Dying to Sleep with Them, RUN!!

Tantra: The Next Step in Love’s Evolution

Tantra: The Next Step in Love's Evolution We are on the cusp of a whole new chapter in love, relationships and sexuality. The old ways are dying.. and more quickly every day. We no longer define relationships like our parents and grandparents did. We are redefining love in every way. And we know that we are missing something in our sex lives - that it's more than just going for a simple orgasm, that we're supposed to feel differently afterwards, that it's supposed to bring us closer together, and that it's supposed to be a kind of spiritual experience [...]

By | June 22nd, 2016|Frontpage Article, Philosophy, Sexuality, Students|Comments Off on Tantra: The Next Step in Love’s Evolution

Google & Facebook are Terrified of Tantra – 5 Things this tells us… About Us

Facebook & Google are Terrified of Tantra… 5 Things this Tells Us... About Us So here is a common email I receive from Google and Facebook: “Your ad has been disapproved due to illicit sexual content…” Hmmmm… These are ads for couples' retreats where you deepen your intimacy and love... These are ads for online courses in intimacy, tantra, and sacred sexuality... on how to truly make love to each other... And there might be a picture of a couple looking at each other like they wanted to kiss... Hmmm... Not really the stuff of scandals... So what's going on? [...]

By | May 21st, 2015|Sexuality|Comments Off on Google & Facebook are Terrified of Tantra – 5 Things this tells us… About Us

Orgasm As a Spiritual Experience

Orgasm as a Spiritual Experience Orgasm is an amazing thing… We’ve all felt it… One minute, we are just us living our lives feeling the earth under our feet, thinking about life, paying the bills… And then maybe we choose to have some sensual pleasure… either alone or with a partner… It feels wonderful… The touch, the smell, the sensations in the body… and then “something” starts to build… We can’t describe the something… there are no words… And it builds and builds… and (if we’re lucky..) it erupts in orgasm….. Aaahhhh For those few moments, we float in [...]

By | April 19th, 2015|Sexuality|Comments Off on Orgasm As a Spiritual Experience

What Happens When We Repress our Sexuality?

What Happens When we Repress our Sexuality? Some would say that it is a good idea to repress our sexuality... within ourselves.. and within society as a whole... We fear its power. We fear what choices people would make if they were free. We fear that everything would fall into chaos or something... Hmmm... But what actually happens when we repress it? 1) Something dies inside of us Our sexual energy is our life force. It is our prana, our chi, our spirit, the energy that courses through our bodies when we play sports, go to work, create art, [...]

By | March 8th, 2015|Sexuality|1 Comment

Tantra is the Opposite of Porn

Tantra is the Opposite of Porn What if studying tantra could heal our addiction to Porn? What if tapping into our natural abilities to experience ecstasy changes everything? I was really nervous when I first realized that I wanted to teach Tantra. What would people think? Would they be offended? Talking about sex is such a no-no… I live in a very small conservative community.. How was this going to work? But then a good friend said to me… "Do you realize what you're offering people? Tantra is essentially the OPPOSITE of porn." Once I realized this, I never [...]

By | February 12th, 2015|Intimacy, Sexuality, Students|Comments Off on Tantra is the Opposite of Porn