This is a great question.. and a really common concern…
Studying and practicing tantra changes the whole dynamic around ejaculating which takes the pressure off and therefore creates a deeper connection between you and the “ejaculation response”.
In “regular sex”, the end-goal is ejaculation.. And for many reasons, many men struggle with this… Either ejaculating sooner than they’d like or struggling to get it up at all. And once you realize that it might be a problem, the problem gets out of control.
But in tantra, the focus is what happens when you truly connect with another person – energetically, emotionally, through the heart. What happens when you just touch someone for the joy and pleasure of touching them, without the goal of arousal or orgasm?
When we do this, the whole experience of lovemaking slows down and we start to savour every moment.. and then each moment becomes bigger and bigger… And when these incredible and full moments string together, creating beautiful lovemaking and pleasure.. Ejaculation becomes very secondary.
Plus, through tantra, we learn to be meditative in life and in lovemaking. This also helps to relieve the anxiety.. Plus you learn how to gain control over your ejaculation so that you soon have nothing to be anxious about.
Our course Foundations for Tantric Intimacy is a wonderful place to start if you would like to learn more. 🙂
Definitely. Tantra is really a personal journey. The real goal of tantra is to experience our true essence.. our true divinity right here in these bodies.. in these lives. To do this means that we need to let go of a lot of “stuff”.. We need to let go of the constructs that society has built for us to live within, what we learned from our families and friends, what our teachers and society taught us was right and wrong. We need to start living from within… Having a soul’s experience instead.
When we have a partner, it is different because it is through the shared intimacy that we can see something new. We can combine energies to reach new heights. But still, we must do our personal work in order to get clear enough to be that vulnerable, that open, that kind and that present with another person.
So to do the work ourselves first is brilliant. This is the true path of the tantrika… The personal inner and spiritual journey…
Plus, in terms of sexuality and intimacy, we also learn what else is possible out there. And therefore we attract something new and different into our lives in our next partner!!
Our Foundations for Tantric Intimacy course has two streams: One for individual study, and one for couples. 🙂
Wonderful! Tantra is an incredibly deep and rich study that we can truly study, practice and continue study for our whole lives.. It truly becomes a way of being.
Our Foundations for Tantric Intimacy course starts with the basic principles of tantra and applies it to us as people – in our every day lives, in all of our relationships and in intimacy. We become tantric… We embody it in every step. And then we bring it into our relationships, finding the true intimacy that is possible between humans – true spiritual connection. Then we extend this into sacred union.
This could be the only course you ever take in tantra – lots to play with for your whole life. Or it is a stepping stone to more study.
No problem. We definitely have scholarship spots available. Just email Katrina at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will find a way for you!!
Another option is becoming an Affiliate. Affiliates send out the information about the program to their friends, family, colleagues, email lists, facebook friends, etc and promote the course. If their friends sign up, the affiliate gets a commission. It’s a wonderful way to either make an income supporting and promoting something you believe in.. Or it’s a wonderful way to pay for a course that you’d love to take!!
So between choosing a Scholarship spot or being an Affiliate, we’ll find the path that fits perfectly for you. 🙂
This is one of the most beautiful applications of tantra. We learn how to BE TANTRIC. We learn how to be truly present, intimate, focused, sensitive and blissful ourselves. And then we share this presence with our partner. This is where incredible magic happens.. When two people come together who are open, loving and aware, just incredible things happen.. Beyond our imaginings.. What humans are truly made for.. And deep down, it’s like we already know this.. but we don’t know how to get there.Our Foundations for Tantric Intimacy course teaches this. You can take it yourself or you can take it with your partner.. Either way, it’s an incredible thing to learn a new foundation for having incredible relationships.
The wonderful thing about studying tantra is that you personally will hold a different kind of space when you are with anyone. You will be fully present, loving, kind and open… When you have a new partner, if they are willing, they will fall into YOUR space… You can even preface it by saying “Hey, let’s try something new I’ve learned…” And play from there… After that, even if they read a book or go on a retreat with you, they will be able to connect in a tantric way for sure.
Our Foundations for Tantric Intimacy course is a really gentle way to get started. It’s really down to earth and it truly takes you right from the core of relationships – intimacy and builds you to an amazing place. People do often feel intimidated.. but if your partner knows that you are both new to this, it could be viewed as a fun new adventure that you will take together.. as opposed to something that you want him to learn. Tantra is always about discovery, no matter how long you’ve been practising it… So you will both have a wonderful time together.. And honestly what better hobby for a couple to have? 😉
In our normal lives, we hold on to control for a hundred reasons… and this makes our sex life (and relationships) kind of ho-hum and difficult because we don’t get a chance to truly relax and let the incredible amounts of energy flowing through our bodies to truly be felt and then shared with another person.
This course creates a new foundation for us. It helps us be able to relax and be truly intimate and in the present moment. Letting go of control is a big part of the process!!