This is a great question, and a really common concern.
Studying and practicing tantra changes the whole dynamic around ejaculating which takes the pressure off and therefore creates a deeper connection between you and the “ejaculation response”.
In “regular sex”, the end-goal is ejaculation.. And for many reasons, many men struggle with this… Either ejaculating sooner than they’d like or struggling to get it up at all. And once you realize that it might be a problem, the problem gets out of control.
But in tantra, the focus is what happens when you truly connect with another person – energetically, emotionally, through the heart. What happens when you just touch someone for the joy and pleasure of touching them, without the goal of arousal or orgasm?
When we do this, the whole experience of lovemaking slows down and we start to savour every moment — and then each moment becomes bigger and bigger… And when these incredible and full moments string together, creating beautiful lovemaking and pleasure.. Ejaculation becomes very secondary.
Plus, through tantra, we learn to be meditative in life and in lovemaking. This also helps to relieve the anxiety… Plus you learn how to gain control over your ejaculation so that you soon have nothing to be anxious about.
We have a video on it here for more information.
And our course Foundations for Tantric Intimacy is also a wonderful place to start if you would like to learn more. 🙂