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Demisexuals Rising Amidst the Robots

Demi-sexual = someone who does not experience sexual attraction to another person unless or until they have formed an emotional connection with that person. Recently a friend asked me if I had heard of this new term being used on dating apps - demisexual. He was absolutely blown away that because he actually wanted to have an emotional connection with someone before having sex, he was now considered worth labelling - like this was a strange thing that needed to be pointed out. He asked me what I thought of this - as a woman but also as a teacher of [...]

By | 2019-09-06T22:51:53+00:00 September 6th, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Relationships, Sexuality, tantra|Comments Off on Demisexuals Rising Amidst the Robots

Tantra is a Bridge to a New Way of Loving

Tantra is a bridge between the old way of loving to a new possibility. It is a possibility that we have had glimpses of or maybe what we have just imagined was possible. Kindness and loving intimacy all day long. Lovemaking that was not only totally satisfying but that truly nourished you and made you happier and more peaceful. Tantra is a bridge from the relationships of the past that were often built on obligation or the need to have a partner - either to have children or simply be part of what society expected. Marriage became an institution. [...]

By | 2019-09-04T15:32:48+00:00 September 4th, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Masculine & Feminine, Relationships, Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Tantra is a Bridge to a New Way of Loving

Why We Focus on the Feminine in Tantra

I was recently reading comments in a Facebook group where people were arguing about the “incessant focus on the feminine”. It began as a series of angry responses to someone posting an article about physical abuse towards women. Someone asked why this was in a tantra group. What did this have to do with tantra? So why is the feminine so important in tantra? And why is this article of abuse actually an important topic to bring up? The Foundation of Tantra There are two main focuses in tantra at a foundational level. First, [...]

By | 2019-08-31T13:20:23+00:00 August 31st, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Masculine & Feminine, Relationships, Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Why We Focus on the Feminine in Tantra

The Communication of Eye-Gazing

So why do we really eye-gaze in tantric practice? I’ve always known that it was important but it's always been difficult to fully explain why and what is “supposed to happen”. We talk about the eyes being the "windows of the soul", so perhaps we are connecting souls. We need to learn how to be vulnerable and staring into someone’s eyes creates that. We cannot lie with our eyes and so maybe we are learning honesty. We need to practise full focus on the other, so perhaps this is good to do. And beyond all of [...]

By | 2019-08-26T10:34:09+00:00 August 26th, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Relationships, Sexuality, tantra|Comments Off on The Communication of Eye-Gazing

From Trespass to Consent to True Desire

Learning about consent is a common topic for courses and workshops these days. And it’s definitely important after years of not thinking it mattered. But the final destination isn’t consent. It is actually honouring true desire. Let’s Redefine Masculine & Feminine The masculine and feminine are simply two parts of a whole. When they play together in union, we create a “oneness” - a state of true happiness and bliss. “Masculine” and “feminine” describe how we relate to each other every time we interact. If we aren’t being “masculine” or “feminine”, then we aren’t actually interacting with someone, we [...]

By | 2019-01-17T22:40:49+00:00 January 17th, 2019|Intimacy, Masculine & Feminine, Relationships, Sexuality|Comments Off on From Trespass to Consent to True Desire

A Graceful Exit – Divorcing in Love

Whenever I told people that we were separating, the overwhelming response was, “OMG what happened? You guys were SUCH A GREAT COUPLE!” The assumption was that there had to be “something” that “broke us up”. But the truth was, after over 20 years, whether we wanted it or not, our paths had diverged. It was the clearest moment when I knew that it was over. I wanted something. He didn't want it. There was a passive power struggle (we were both peace-keepers). And the realization hit me that we actually wanted different things in life now. Our children were nearly [...]

By | 2018-05-21T21:49:33+00:00 January 8th, 2018|Relationships, tantra|Comments Off on A Graceful Exit – Divorcing in Love