Tantra Is Not Hedonism

One of my first fears about openly teaching tantra was that people would assume that I was into free love, lots of kink and orgies every weekend. This is because the word tantra has been heavily linked with sex - sometimes in a sacred way but generally in an “anything goes” kind of way. But this isn’t what tantra really is. There are threads of truth hiding in there. But the real point has been missed altogether. To Be Open to Anything This is truly a tantric teaching - to release all of our [...]

By | 2019-07-29T16:51:00+00:00 July 29th, 2019|Hope, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Tantra Is Not Hedonism

The Two Simple Teachings of Tantra

What is tantra really? It isn't something we need to talk about or study endlessly. It is a way of seeing the world. If it makes sense to us and it expands our experience, then we simply spend the rest of our life living it. Being Infinite and Limited The first teaching is that we are both infinite and limited. We are both energy and physical. This teaching allows us to expand what is possible in our physical lives. It may be something as simple as knowing that in each moment, there are not [...]

By | 2019-07-30T07:21:29+00:00 July 22nd, 2019|Hope, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on The Two Simple Teachings of Tantra

The Deep Emotional Dive of Tantra

Sometimes I feel truly depressed. So I go there. Sometimes I'm blissfully happy. I go there too. Sometimes I'm grieving. I go all in. Sometimes I'm so excited to be alive. I dive deep there too. I am currently in Canada visiting for a couple months before heading back out into the world and I have to say that my emotions are all over the place. Sometimes I feel all warm and fuzzy by being with people who I love. And then, a few days later, I feel sadness because we must say goodbye for a time. Sometimes [...]

By | 2019-06-28T17:33:16+00:00 June 28th, 2019|Hope, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on The Deep Emotional Dive of Tantra

Yeah, It’s a God Thing

In most circles, the topic of God, Spirit, or divine experiences is keenly avoided. For generations we’ve been told to not talk about such an inflammatory topic unless we are looking for a heated argument. And generally, that’s all fine and dandy! My personal faith doesn’t need to be discussed with strangers on the subway line, and I’m sure most other people feel the same. So here’s the question: Is this always the case? Are we always better off skating around the topic of spirituality Hmmm… As a teacher of Tantra this has been a very prominent question for me. On [...]

By | 2019-02-03T07:29:40+00:00 February 3rd, 2019|Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Yeah, It’s a God Thing

Let’s Get Naked & Nosey

My good friend recently posted on Facebook that her six-year-old son was asking whether she and daddy had sex. Not knowing what to say, she asked him what he thought sex was. He said, "When you guys get naked and nosey." My comment was that this was the most beautiful description of true intimacy that I could imagine. When we want to learn about tantra or simply improve our relationship, we are often looking for complex tricks or changes that will make all the difference. But the truth is, if we all just took some time to enjoy getting [...]

By | 2018-10-02T19:28:02+00:00 January 29th, 2018|Intimacy, Sexuality, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Let’s Get Naked & Nosey

A Graceful Exit – Divorcing in Love

Whenever I told people that we were separating, the overwhelming response was, “OMG what happened? You guys were SUCH A GREAT COUPLE!” The assumption was that there had to be “something” that “broke us up”. But the truth was, after over 20 years, whether we wanted it or not, our paths had diverged. It was the clearest moment when I knew that it was over. I wanted something. He didn't want it. There was a passive power struggle (we were both peace-keepers). And the realization hit me that we actually wanted different things in life now. Our children were nearly [...]

By | 2018-05-21T21:49:33+00:00 January 8th, 2018|Relationships, tantra|Comments Off on A Graceful Exit – Divorcing in Love