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Demisexuals Rising Amidst the Robots

Demi-sexual = someone who does not experience sexual attraction to another person unless or until they have formed an emotional connection with that person. Recently a friend asked me if I had heard of this new term being used on dating apps - demisexual. He was absolutely blown away that because he actually wanted to have an emotional connection with someone before having sex, he was now considered worth labelling - like this was a strange thing that needed to be pointed out. He asked me what I thought of this - as a woman but also as a teacher of [...]

By | 2019-09-06T22:51:53+00:00 September 6th, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Relationships, Sexuality, tantra|Comments Off on Demisexuals Rising Amidst the Robots

Tantra is a Bridge to a New Way of Loving

Tantra is a bridge between the old way of loving to a new possibility. It is a possibility that we have had glimpses of or maybe what we have just imagined was possible. Kindness and loving intimacy all day long. Lovemaking that was not only totally satisfying but that truly nourished you and made you happier and more peaceful. Tantra is a bridge from the relationships of the past that were often built on obligation or the need to have a partner - either to have children or simply be part of what society expected. Marriage became an institution. [...]

By | 2019-09-04T15:32:48+00:00 September 4th, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Masculine & Feminine, Relationships, Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Tantra is a Bridge to a New Way of Loving

Why We Focus on the Feminine in Tantra

I was recently reading comments in a Facebook group where people were arguing about the “incessant focus on the feminine”. It began as a series of angry responses to someone posting an article about physical abuse towards women. Someone asked why this was in a tantra group. What did this have to do with tantra? So why is the feminine so important in tantra? And why is this article of abuse actually an important topic to bring up? The Foundation of Tantra There are two main focuses in tantra at a foundational level. First, [...]

By | 2019-08-31T13:20:23+00:00 August 31st, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Masculine & Feminine, Relationships, Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Why We Focus on the Feminine in Tantra

The Communication of Eye-Gazing

So why do we really eye-gaze in tantric practice? I’ve always known that it was important but it's always been difficult to fully explain why and what is “supposed to happen”. We talk about the eyes being the "windows of the soul", so perhaps we are connecting souls. We need to learn how to be vulnerable and staring into someone’s eyes creates that. We cannot lie with our eyes and so maybe we are learning honesty. We need to practise full focus on the other, so perhaps this is good to do. And beyond all of [...]

By | 2019-08-26T10:34:09+00:00 August 26th, 2019|Dating, Intimacy, Relationships, Sexuality, tantra|Comments Off on The Communication of Eye-Gazing

Tantra Is Not Hedonism

One of my first fears about openly teaching tantra was that people would assume that I was into free love, lots of kink and orgies every weekend. This is because the word tantra has been heavily linked with sex - sometimes in a sacred way but generally in an “anything goes” kind of way. But this isn’t what tantra really is. There are threads of truth hiding in there. But the real point has been missed altogether. To Be Open to Anything This is truly a tantric teaching - to release all of our [...]

By | 2019-07-29T16:51:00+00:00 July 29th, 2019|Hope, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Tantra Is Not Hedonism

The Two Simple Teachings of Tantra

What is tantra really? It isn't something we need to talk about or study endlessly. It is a way of seeing the world. If it makes sense to us and it expands our experience, then we simply spend the rest of our life living it. Being Infinite and Limited The first teaching is that we are both infinite and limited. We are both energy and physical. This teaching allows us to expand what is possible in our physical lives. It may be something as simple as knowing that in each moment, there are not [...]

By | 2019-07-30T07:21:29+00:00 July 22nd, 2019|Hope, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on The Two Simple Teachings of Tantra

The Deep Emotional Dive of Tantra

Sometimes I feel truly depressed. So I go there. Sometimes I'm blissfully happy. I go there too. Sometimes I'm grieving. I go all in. Sometimes I'm so excited to be alive. I dive deep there too. I am currently in Canada visiting for a couple months before heading back out into the world and I have to say that my emotions are all over the place. Sometimes I feel all warm and fuzzy by being with people who I love. And then, a few days later, I feel sadness because we must say goodbye for a time. Sometimes [...]

By | 2019-06-28T17:33:16+00:00 June 28th, 2019|Hope, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on The Deep Emotional Dive of Tantra

Yeah, It’s a God Thing

In most circles, the topic of God, Spirit, or divine experiences is keenly avoided. For generations we’ve been told to not talk about such an inflammatory topic unless we are looking for a heated argument. And generally, that’s all fine and dandy! My personal faith doesn’t need to be discussed with strangers on the subway line, and I’m sure most other people feel the same. So here’s the question: Is this always the case? Are we always better off skating around the topic of spirituality Hmmm… As a teacher of Tantra this has been a very prominent question for me. On [...]

By | 2019-02-03T07:29:40+00:00 February 3rd, 2019|Sexuality, Spiritual Growth, Spirituality, tantra, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Yeah, It’s a God Thing

Let’s Get Naked & Nosey

My good friend recently posted on Facebook that her six-year-old son was asking whether she and daddy had sex. Not knowing what to say, she asked him what he thought sex was. He said, "When you guys get naked and nosey." My comment was that this was the most beautiful description of true intimacy that I could imagine. When we want to learn about tantra or simply improve our relationship, we are often looking for complex tricks or changes that will make all the difference. But the truth is, if we all just took some time to enjoy getting [...]

By | 2018-10-02T19:28:02+00:00 January 29th, 2018|Intimacy, Sexuality, Spirituality, tantra|Comments Off on Let’s Get Naked & Nosey

A Graceful Exit – Divorcing in Love

Whenever I told people that we were separating, the overwhelming response was, “OMG what happened? You guys were SUCH A GREAT COUPLE!” The assumption was that there had to be “something” that “broke us up”. But the truth was, after over 20 years, whether we wanted it or not, our paths had diverged. It was the clearest moment when I knew that it was over. I wanted something. He didn't want it. There was a passive power struggle (we were both peace-keepers). And the realization hit me that we actually wanted different things in life now. Our children were nearly [...]

By | 2018-05-21T21:49:33+00:00 January 8th, 2018|Relationships, tantra|Comments Off on A Graceful Exit – Divorcing in Love