The short answer is “Yes”.
If someone has spent a life dedicated to caring for others and is unable to allow themselves true, uninhibited pleasure, then some pleasure-seeking might just be the challenge for them to truly grow, expand and round out their life.
The question always is whether it is truly an inner calling or simply a desire.
This is why tantra is challenging because there is no book to say that “this” is an OK calling and “that” isn’t. We must deepen our own connection to the point that regardless of whether others would understand, we can take the leap, knowing that somehow we will grow, heal and expand.
But this is truly just our own journey… our own personal tantric journey.